Being Offended is a choice.

   So, have you ever done something to "offend" somebody, only to find out that it wasn't you at all?  I had that happen a few months ago.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not perfect.....well not always:0....(Oh yes I did)......but I do try to get along with the other ladies around me.  Not only did I go to this person and ask what I had done, I also met with her and another person to try to straighten things out.  Well that didn't go well!!!!  So needless to say, my desire to be friendly with this person has completely faded away.  I was hurt at first, and tried to apologize, but she didn't want to hear it.  My conclusion is that some people are just bully's.  I refuse to be one.

    I'm not a mean girl.  I'm not out to destroy others.  If you don't like me, that's your choice, but you could at least be truthful and let me know why.  I'm not the brightest bulb in the pack, but I'm not the dullest either.  I really don't like being treated like a dummy.  I learned a long time ago, that you have to pick your friends.  You can not let them pick you.  Who you hang around is who you become.  I've also learned that there are wolves in sheep's clothing.  You know....those people who you can see straight through.  Or those who you meet, and "something" (the Holy Spirit) tells you that they aren't being genuine with you.  Well I think I may have learned the hard way that I need to listen to the Holy Spirit.  I thought it was just my "gut" telling me there was a problem.  Now I know that it wasn't my gut at all.  It was the Holy Spirit telling me to be careful.

    Even when a person looks positive, and they seem to be a strong Christian, they are still sinful.  We all are no matter how good our intentions are.  I refuse to be known as a "catty" lady.  You won't find me spending my free time with those who use "prayer" as a form of gossip.  You can't hide gossip by saying "So and so did this, so pray for her."  Don't try to make yourself look more spiritual by using God as crutch.  Be honest and upfront about who you are, and how you aren't perfect.  Stop pointing fingers at all the people around you, and look at yourself.  Maybe the reason you have so much conflict with people EVERYWHERE is because you are the problem.  Ever think about that?  So if you think there is something about a person that "just feels wrong", it might be the Holy Spirit telling you to be cautious.

    I have way to much going on in my own family to be concerned with such petty things.  God has blessed me with a wonderful family.  I just choose not to spend my time with women who will bring me down.  I need to live up to the mother and wife that God wants me to be, not who YOU think I should be.